hey ppl, i know it been awhile so here is a post to let ya”ll know that i’m still alive. Over the past few months there has been discussions and questions bout relationships. I thought why not i let my thoughts float around as well for curious minds. Many people don’t understand it, to be in a relationship comes commitment and sacrifices as one of the main points that a lot of people don’t realise when they get into one. It’s 90% work and 10% pleasure, and many mistaken it for the other way round nowadays. Work? who wants to work at it? not many and for those who do, will reap it benefits. We should know that despite the many similarities that we share with another person there’s also differences in a lot of aspects individually which then requires to work at it to complete each other. That’s why a lot of people get in and out of relationships due to lack of patience and perseverance to endure and work out each others so-called nonsense keeping in mind that we’re not perfect beings. The song called ‘Ain’t too proud to beg’ by the temptations has taught me a great deal bout being in a relationship as well and that’s humility. There are times when argument occurs and we fail by bringing in pride unable to admit our mistakes.
A wise God-fearing woman once told me that in regards to relationship we can only afford ‘one arrow for one target’. Simply saying that relationships are not to be played around or to test our inabilities or abilities. We have mistaken the fact that being in a relationship with another person will complete our whole being, and that’s sad. I seriously think that we are responsible for ourselves and we should grow into a potential person to be able to get into a relationship to complete each other further, not have insecurities when we get into one like bringing in other excess baggage from past relationships as well in hope and pray that this other person will help me out with my problems. Friendships should always be pursued first in order to know the person well enough and if you’re not sure have faith and patience and take the time to know the individual even more. Many times we let infatuation get in the way, that we’re never cured of the ‘love at first sight’ syndrome and when we focus on that too much that will come to a part in our relationship with the person fades and we lose interest.
To rush into a relationship is always a failure and mistake, out of the many experiences from friends, one of it will be a perfect example where this guy have the hearts for a person even when the other person is already in a relationship. Many people like this person reminds me a lot of times on the National Geographic series about the lions being the most ferocious hunting predators that sits and waits for the right moment to strike. To them it’s a competition and a race to the trophy that whould entitle them ‘King of the Jungle’ or ‘The Alpha Male’ that it will enable them to walk down a street showing off their latest new toy (believe me, a lot of guys are like this). Soon after many events of trying to pursue the girl he then gave up saying that it’s too much work. Now, i’m not saying that its the right thing to go after someone who’s already in a relationship in fact i think its rather disrespectful and people really do that, but THE POINT is that he gave up because it was too much work or commitment, what happened? INFATUATION died off, and this is only SO much infatuation can endure.
My advice? Take your time to get to know someone and if you end up liking the person, take time to pursue him/her or even if there’s no interest at all, you still have friendship, friendships make a strong bond and are one of the best things in life, in fact it would amaze me if you even have ONE true friend nowadays, the kind that would tell you off whenever you’re wrong and not sugar coat things for you and etc, don’t believe me? try testing it. Don’t worry if there’s competition cuz’ the last thing you want to know is that a person is chasing after you as a trophy. Some wise words from the bible states that love is patient, trustworthy, peace, joy, faithful, not jealous, forgiving and it goes on. Feel free to give your thoughts on this. It can be a discussion and tell me if you think i’m wrong. Have a good week, God Bless.
